Fear’s a funny thing…
It’s doesn’t cause you any real physical pain,
It’s often about things that haven’t happened yet and might never happen,
And it’s all in your head…
But it can be the most crippling thing we can experience as human beings…
And if you’re like 99% of Recruitment and Search Business Owners I know, the fear of rejection,
The fear of failing,
The fear of being wrong,
The fear of looking stupid,
The fear of being criticised,
Has been holding you back in your business…
And will continue to do so unless you do something about it…
Fear rears its ugly little head in many different ways…
It stops you commanding the fee you actually deserve,
It stops you picking up the phone,
It stops you managing out that toxic team member,
It stops you from launching marketing campaigns or promoting your business,
It stops you asking for the sale,
And thats just off the top of my head…
Most people know this, at least to some extent.
And a question I’m often asked by the Recruitment and Search Business Owners I work with is “How do you get over the fear?”
Well, I’ve got some bad news for you…
You can’t… The only real solution is to feel the fear and do it anyway…
But here are five ‘truths’ about fear to make things easier…
1. The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow.
Maybe not what you wanted to hear, but I think there is a relief that comes with you no longer having to work so hard to try and eliminate the fear. What happens is that as your confidence grows, your relationship with fear dramatically changes. Think about this, doing the things that you’re scared of the most is where you’ll see the most growth. Look for fear and be excited by it
2. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.
If this sounds contradictory to Truth 1, it’s not. Fear of particular situations dissolve when you finally confront them.
3. The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and do it.
This is important, the “doing it” comes before the feeling better about yourself.
4. Not only are you going to experience fear whenever you’re in unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.
This one usually comes as a relief. Often, we think we’re the only person who experiences these fears when in fact everyone does – it’s perfectly normal.
5. Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
No matter how “secure” any of us feel in the cocoon we have built for ourselves, we live, consciously or unconsciously, with the fear that the day of reckoning will eventually come. Ultimately, it’s less frightening to just take the fear head-on.
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